How to Behave

Good manners begin with consideration for other people in Samuel R. Wells's guide to American etiquette. Written for young readers, the handbook connects everyday politeness with fairness, kindness and self-control. Its chapters range from cleanliness, clothing and conversation to receiving visitors, writing letters and behaving at dinner. Alongside rules for social occasions, Wells discusses conduct at home and the procedures of debating societies, giving his account of courtesy both a domestic and a public setting.

The details of parties and festivals make the book especially useful as a record of social customs. Advice on ballroom introductions sits beside New Year visits in New York and Thanksgiving gatherings in New England. Wells distinguishes the lasting principles behind considerate behavior from conventions that change with circumstances. Readers interested in the history of manners can follow how that distinction works through precise instructions for hosts, guests and companions.